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Depression Within Someone Else's Relationship

There is a tendency for those of us outside of a particular relationship to see the walls of it as fixed, solid, and most certainly not to be crossed - and for a lot of activities that is absolutely valid and correct. If there is depression with one party within a relationship however, it can have problems. Firstly it puts the expectation, from those of us outside, that the partner will be all over it, the support required will 'obviously' be being shared, the skills an techniques are all within the relationship. In essence, it's being sorted and there's no need for us to stick our noses in. That may be correct. Or it may be a very wrong assumption. A partner living with someone with depression is not only "just" another human being with no more skills, experiences, tools, or techniques than you or I, they may even be the opposite, someone that lacks the worldview to be that support. That person, having to stand next to the depression, may also be s

The Forum: "Fat Chance!" a "Post-It From London" - by Kate Ayres (London, UK)

This follows on from my Web 1.0 - ahhh, the good ol' days posting and the promise of blogging The Forum postings over here. Mainly it's to preserve them for posterity as Geocities is no longer but also it's fun to re-read some of them. 26th January, 2002 Well, first and foremost, Happy New Year for 2002 and what a start to the second year after the Millennium, when, if you remember rightly, the world was going to stop and your computer was going to rule the world… oh happy days…. Right, what delights currently await the unwary in London? Well, after the “season of excess”, we now find ourselves in the “season of success” and that can and is only measured by the size of your… girth! Yep guys and gals the “quick I need to lose 240 llbs now” season is in full swing.. and to my chagrin I am also on this treadmill… woops sorry for the pun. I got ill in December and ended up being rather poorly, incapable of exercise and my arse is the size of small country at the moment

Anger & Depression ... And Affairs

This post was originally written a few year's ago - the ending has changed and so I have updated it, but the rest of this article stays even though I am a lot different to the person writing back in 2016. Even when it's broken it's beautiful End of the year [Mike: 2016] . Traditionally it's a time of reflection, contemplation and rest from the year's hard activities - bollocks if you ask me but here I go anyway. Whilst this year has certainly my brought a lot of change to my life it's fairly well known that I thrive in change , I love working out the future, planning for the differences and never standing still (ish). When I had my crash in March I made the promise to, “Never do that again!”, and the only way I could even attempt to keep that promise was to demand that I STOP! "Never do THAT again", it's a small word,”that”, but it covers a lifetime of anger, pain, confusion as well as feelings of worthlessness, being lost and lone