We Would Worry Less About What People Think About Us If ...

My early life was one of absolute joy, safety, and happiness. There was quite the blip when my father left us, however even that worked out in short number of years.

I left the nest via quite a wonderfully different path and, after the final formal education, have subsequently meandered through a life of connecting, explaining, and getting stuff done.

At all times I have never thought about what people thought about this. It's my life and I'll do it how I want thank you very much.

As I got older though I suddenly started to think, "Oh, people have thoughts, and sometimes they have thoughts about me that aren't what I have about me. Weird."

I've rarely tried to find out the details though, their thoughts are theirs and none of my business.

Sometimes though, just sometimes, I do have desires to know what someone is thinking about me. Curiosity, pangs of desire, maybe anger or even pain.

99.9% of the time I pull up my big boys pants and ask only to find out the answer is, "Oh, um, I wasn't thinking about you/that/them/it, sorry."

Ah.

Even you're different to me and care about what people think the fact remains, people aren't thinking of us that much. They have their own lives, they're busy, they've got stuff do. They also have a lot of time to spend thinking about themselves.

Try this, think of a person you know. Doesn't have to be someone close, but someone you know from work, or your wiser circle of friends. Or perhaps someone you fancy, or admire in some other way. Apart from right now, how many times have you thought about them in the last hour, today, or even the past week?

Same goes people thinking about you. I'm doing the above and you never know, I may have chosen you, and it's very likely I haven't thought about you for a while. Not that's a bad thing, we'll catch-up soon I'm sure.

If people aren't thinking about you, things you think you've done, past issues you may have, plans you think are coming, know that they're definitely not thinking about what's going on inside your brain (wherever you live in it), how could they.

So chill, be a nice person, and don't worry, people rarely think about you, and definitely not about THAT.

We would worry less about what people think about us when we realise how rarely they do.

Oh, except YOU right now, I am intensely thinking about you as I finish this off 😵‍💫